Recognizing abuse is the first step to getting help.
The following is a list of common things to look for in your relationship. Does your partner:
- Control you?
- Prevent you from visiting friends and family?
- Destroy your property?
- Ever push, kick, slap, punch or choke you?
- Threaten to harm you and/or the children or a pet?
- Sexually assault you?
- Deny or blame you for the abuse?
- Make you feel bad about yourself?
- Forbid you from practising your religion?
- Limit your access to money, the phone, etc?
- Use insults, name calling and shaming in private and/or public places?
If you answered ‘yes’ to more than one question please seek immediate assistance from WCYR or another women’s agency. Counsellors at Women’s Centre of York Region can assist you in making sense of what is happening in your life and to develop a safety plan for yourself and your children. Please call us at (905) 853-9270 for a phone assessment.
Learn More About Abuse
Power and Control Wheel can help you identify and put names to abusive behaviour.
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Trans Power and Control Wheel can help you understand the violence that may occur within same-sex or trans relationships.
Equality Wheel can help you recognize a healthy relationship.
If you have ever felt unsafe in your relationship – physically or emotionally – it’s important to have a safety plan. To learn how to make a safety plan for yourself and your children, click here.
Clear Your Tracks Online
It’s important to realize that the record of your Internet activities does not disappear when you close your browser. If you are concerned that someone else may be viewing/checking your Internet history activities, you can delete these sites (history) that you have visited from your computer by completing the following: (Note: To identify your web browser: Help menu > About).
If you are using Google Chrome:
- Open Chrome
- Click on the “wrench” icon
- Move your mouse over “Tools,” then select “Clear browsing data…”
If you are using Internet Explorer:
- Open Internet Explorer
- Tools menu > Internet Options
- Temporary Internet Files section > Delete Files
- History > Clear History
If you are using Mozilla Firefox:
- Open Firefox
- Click History at the top of the window
- “Tools” menu > “Options” > “Privacy” button, and under “History” click the “Clear” or “Clear Now” button
If you are unsure about these instructions, it might be better to use Internet in a public space, such as the library, school or Internet cafe.
Helping Someone You Know
If you know someone who is being abused, or who you suspect is being abused, you can help by providing non-judgemental, compassionate support. For specific tips on how you can help, click here.